What are Gender Energies? How do they impact Romantic Relationships?
People often form a friend-like bond before getting into a serious romantic relationship. Such couples generally remain together beyond the dating phase simply because they share similar personalities, hobbies, and interests. As a result, it seems normal for people to “expect” the same qualities from their partners later in their relationship. And when their partners fail to meet those expectations, it can lead to conflict and possibly separation.
Even if couples in long-term relationships have similar interests, they do not necessarily have to exhibit the same attitudes, values, perceptions, and behaviors. Attempting to change our partner’s thought process would be counter-productive since it was probably that aspect of their personality that sparked the connection in the first place (unless they wish to change the nature of their lifestyle for their betterment). Therefore, seeking to modify their gender characteristics would be even more problematic.
In our fight for equality, sometimes, we forget that men and women are not the same in many regards. There is no intent to imply that one group is better than another or that we do not deserve equal rights. The truth is that some men have more feminine energy while some women have more masculine energy. As a result, a woman with higher masculine energy will experience emotions differently from a woman with higher feminine energy, and vice versa. Additionally, the male and female “energies” function differently in many ways, whether due to childhood upbringing, biology, spiritual insight, or socialization. However, an area where most of these differences collide and cause unnecessary misunderstandings and problems is in romantic relationships.
Therefore, let’s discuss and understand the three fundamental differences between the two sets of “Gender Energies” for a more fulfilling love life!!
EMOTIONS
Women are perceived as highly sensitive, while men seem less sensitive emotionally. However, at decisive moments in life, most women do not get carried away with emotions as many men do. So, how come women have a reputation for being innately more sensitive and empathic than men? It is primarily because the feminine energy is highly expressive in conveying their emotions, while the masculine energy is more intense but less expressive verbally. And sometimes, the one with a higher emotional level generally refuses to be verbal about their feelings. Therefore, regarding emotions, we can say that the feminine energy is more sensitive and seeks deep interaction. And the masculine energy is passionate and joyous but unable to express.
Human beings have many emotions. Besides positive emotions such as romance, passion, and joy, there are also negative emotions such as fear and jealousy, both expressions of the ego. And Gender Energies play a significant role in it. Compared to the feminine ego, the masculine ego tends to be higher. For example, someone with a “strong masculine ego” cannot tolerate being around another assertive person as they wish to have the upper hand in every situation. They are unaware of how to communicate with another strong individual. Hence, the ones with a “strong masculine ego,” whether it is a “he” or a “she” who pretends to be OK with the other strong individual, may stick together for a brief period. In short, when both partners in a couple have a “strong masculine ego,” they find it difficult to sustain a long-lasting healthy relationship unless they make adequate adjustments and communication.
INTIMACY THROUGH GENDER ENERGIES
Relationships are not always about sexual intimacy but generally pertain to the closeness between two individuals. Having deep conversations, for instance, and being there for each other and sharing the bond at all times is genuine intimacy. Nevertheless, there is always a point within a long-term relationship where one person seeks distance from their partner while the other desires closer intimacy. Hence, the one who seeks intimacy fails to comprehend the “need for space” and assumes their partner conceals something unpleasant. That could lead to further misunderstandings and conflicts in the relationship. And this is where Gender Energies come into play.
The truth is, the masculine energy can be overwhelming. So, to reboot or come true to themselves, they sometimes need a break from an intensive long-term relationship. In contrast, feminine energy can sustain a more intimate relationship. So next time, if your partner requires the “need for space,” do not assume they are hiding something from you or that their feelings for you have changed; instead, it could be the opposite. Then again, if they require too much distance from you, it might be a concerning issue.
COMMITMENT
The early stages of a relationship often involve one person falling head over heels with absolute certainty that they have found the one, typically the one with higher masculine energy. And the one with more feminine energy generally takes longer to gain faith in the relationship. But as time passes, the one with higher feminine energy becomes more confident about sustaining the relationship, while someone with more masculine energy begins to doubt their beliefs. Both the masculine and feminine energies believe in a gradual transition into commitment.
But the feminine energy only moves forward once they are assured about the relationship, whereas the masculine energy suffers through confusion and doubts over time. The problem with the ones with masculine energy is not always that they tend to lose interest or fall out of love; it simply takes longer for them to commit to a lifetime together than those with feminine energy. Hence, commitment is only possible for couples who possess true patience. Then again, learn to recognize the difference between patience and wasting time.
The vitality of gender energies is often overlooked. Every human possesses both feminine and masculine characteristics, but their degree of masculinity and femininity varies from person to person. Therefore, to find a middle ground between you and your partner and save a loving relationship from conflicts and separation, identify which partner has higher masculine energy and which one has higher feminine energy before attempting to resolve any issues. If the couple can overcome these common misunderstandings, your love life could be a beautiful journey.