Did you know about the secret warzone between people in “Marriage” and “Singlehood?”
Society has positioned a standard norm that states married men and women are “Healthier” and live longer. Therefore, people should get married by a certain age or a timeframe, say 25 to 30, as “marriage” helps accumulate “More Money” for the family, leading to a successful life benefitting society in the long run.
At the same time, many oppose such societal norms. They believe in self-sufficiency or fulfilling their life purpose before rushing into something or someone they are unsure of, especially when they are in no hurry for a genuine lifetime commitment.
For several decades, the debate over Marriage and Singlehood has been ongoing.
Many successful marriages are healthy and contribute to societal improvement. In the meantime, according to research, the number of unhappy people is also increasing at a higher rate today. And this primarily applies to “people in marriages.”
Therefore, divorce and suicide cases are becoming more prevalent in the modern era than ever before. It is impacting a higher number of people at a faster rate globally.
Many singles assert that perhaps this is because people do not understand their “true identity” in this changing world. These people get trapped as couples without thoroughly understanding how they function as individuals. In other words, every person has issues, and “marriage” isn’t the solution. But in the same vein, married couples could argue why sharing proficient and challenging times can bring greater comfort and understanding in relationships, which ultimately helps married couples grow as individuals alongside one another.
The thing is, people in both “Marriage” and “Singlehood” waste a great deal of time feeling sorry for each other.
Simply put, no doubt acknowledging ourselves into our “true identity” with all of our flaws causes pain and discomfort. And rehabilitation from distressing experiences is more effective with the support of family, friends, or a loving life partner. Indeed, sharing “can” genuinely help people go forward faster in their lives.
However, does Marriage genuinely bring oneself Gratification? Is Singlehood considered Toxic? But why? Does living in Solitude make some people feel Empty and Lonesome?
Firstly, there is solid hypocrisy prevailing in society regarding partnerships and finances. In theory, the social structure suggests that romantic partnerships can help accumulate more financial security for people to live a better lifestyle. Yet, when a single person is extremely wealthy, somehow they become sinners, self-absorbed, or succumb to the mindset of extreme capitalism. Is that why singlehood is considered toxic? Perhaps it is because single people do not have restrictions on their dating and financial lives, or do they?
The truth is that Marriage will never be attractive to singles if they keep seeing married people behave like they are “Singles.”
When a married individual, for instance, begins to engage in sexual affairs with other partners outside their relationship in hiding or confronting the issue and going ahead with the arrangement, what does that say about marriage in general? Sure, people sometimes have challenging days, which could lead them to commit regrettable oversights in their lives. But isn’t that why people get married in the first place? To deal with such challenging aspects of their lives together in sickness and health? Still, marriage somehow becomes identified as an “achievement” in society.
How is being married and having sworn to take an oath to remain committed to one person while dating other partners an achievement? If people cannot maintain a committed relationship, what is the point of getting into one?
Most married couples, on the other hand, embarrass their single friends or colleagues by insisting that singlehood is an unhealthy lifestyle. They attempt to push their single friends towards connecting with other single acquaintances they meet at various personal or professional events. Single people typically have no qualms against marriage or starting a family. So, in an attempt to “fit in,” most of them get influenced by such humiliation. They end up opting for a path they never intended to take in a hurry. And the other singles cherish their happy times by living for the moment. They enjoy their single life as they focus on their journey toward personal growth, goals, and purpose.
Whether it is a secret cold war between the people in “Marriage” and “Singlehood,” one observation is valid- most married couples are often insecure about their relationship. The lack of trust and potential slips by their spouse is one of the major concerns. Or, could it be that they genuinely pity the single people since they weren’t able to keep themselves content without a partner in their lives? Married couples often say that Singles glamorize their sad, toxic lifestyle, but having extramarital affairs is considered a minor transgression. Yet, how is that not glamourizing a failed marriage? Why is society normalizing unhealthy marriages?
They say love is unconditional, and it forgives. They say love conquers all. Sure, it does.
Does love continue to exist in failed Marriages? The billion-dollar question is: Are you genuinely “in love” or “just lonely?”
Being single may not always lead to loneliness, and marriage is not necessarily the cure. Society claims that singles are lonely, yet there are plenty of lonely married people.
They say marriage is more like a “partnership” where their vows transform into contractual agreements. Perhaps married life is not suited for hopeless romantics who believe in the depths of human love.
But of course, many doubles share a beautiful and pure bond even after sharing the same bed and bath for many years. Pure love marriage exists, but it is rare, and rushing into it can never be a wise solution!!
The problem is, whether one is married or unmarried, the primary aspect of life should be to be “happy.” And your partner should solely be an “added value” to your happiness. But the constant judgments by society, in either case and especially for singles, continue to be challenged.